Twenty years ago, on a gray lake in a rented canoe, our family learned an important lesson about balance. Sarah, age nine, spotted a heron, stood straight up to point at it, and put all four of us in the water. Life jackets, cooler, a thermos of cocoa, gone. And Sarah surfaced, wiped the lake off her face, and announced, completely delighted, that she'd seen it up close now.
That's her. She has never once chosen the safe, seated version of anything.
We kept going back to that lake every summer, and I'll be honest, I spent a lot of years bracing for the tip. Waiting for the wobble. Steadying a boat that seemed determined to find the fastest way into cold water.
And then Jo came along.
The first time the three of us went out on that same lake, I watched Sarah stand up, point at something on the far shore, and this time the canoe didn't move. Jo had already shifted her weight, quietly, without a word, the way you do when you've decided someone's worth staying dry for.
Jo, you don't slow Sarah down. You don't clip her wings or sit her back in her seat. You just found the other side of the boat and leaned. That's the whole trick, and you knew it before I ever had to explain it.
Today I get a second daughter, one who finally makes the numbers even on the water, and two families who've already started arguing, happily, about whose turn it is to host the holidays.
Sarah, Jo, may you keep standing up to point at herons. May you keep each other steady doing it.
So here's to my two girls and the long, bright lake of years ahead of them. Stay paddling, and stay upright.
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