The morning of her first day of school, Aoife refused to leave the house until she'd packed a jam sandwich for the teacher. Not for herself — for the teacher. She was four. That's the whole of my daughter in one small, buttery gesture: certain that everyone she meets deserves looking after.
I'm Bridget, Aoife's mam, and I've watched her hand out jam sandwiches to the world her whole life long.
Then along came Cormac. I'll be honest with you — I was wary. Any lad who turns up to Sunday dinner with a bunch of petrol-station carnations gets a raised eyebrow from me. But he sat at our table, and when my Michael got going on his stories — the ones we've all heard four hundred times — Cormac laughed like it was the first telling. Every single one. And I thought, ah. This one's a keeper. Not because he laughed, but because he listened.
I've seen him since, on the bad days. The winter Aoife's job fell through and she wouldn't get off the couch, it was Cormac who sat beside her with the tea going cold, saying nothing, just there. That's the thing nobody tells you about love. It's not the carnations. It's the staying.
So here's what an old Irish mother knows, and it's the only wisdom I've got. A marriage isn't the big days like this one. It's ten thousand ordinary mornings, and choosing each other across the kitchen table again and again.
Would you all raise your glasses.
May your home be always too small to hold all your friends. May the fire never go out and the kettle never go dry. And may the two of you keep making each other laugh at stories you've heard a hundred times before.
To Aoife and Cormac.
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