The first thing Chloe ever said to me was, "You're not my dad, and you can't sit in the good chair." She was seven. She was correct on both counts, and she'd already claimed the recliner with her whole body.
So I did what any grown man does when a seven-year-old declares war. I brought snacks. Specifically, the little orange crackers she pretended not to like and then ate an entire box of. I like to think that was the beginning of diplomacy. She'd call it a bribe. She'd be right.
For the record, I never once tried to be her dad. That job was taken, and he's a good one. I just applied for a different role — the guy who taught her to parallel park in an empty car park while she screamed that I was ruining her life. The guy who sat through eleven school concerts where she played the triangle. Eleven. One note. She nailed it every time.
And somewhere in all that, she stopped being the kid who guarded the recliner and became this — a woman who walked in tonight looking like her mother did the day she flattened me completely.
Then along came Daniel. Now, Daniel, the first time you shook my hand, you called me "sir" so many times I checked whether I'd been knighted. But here's what I noticed. You listen to her. You laugh at the jokes she thinks are funnier than they are. And when she talks, you look at her like she invented talking.
That's all I ever wanted for her. Not the flowers, not the cake — someone who chooses her, loudly, every single day.
So raise your glasses. To Chloe and Daniel. May your love be steady, your laughter be loud, and may you always fight over the good chair.
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